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El primer día de soledad

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Uff, ahora sí. Ahora sí. Ahora sí. Estoy solita y no sé ni como sentirme. Mi princesa comenzó en el colegio a tiempo completo. Hoy Lunes es mi primer día sola en casa. Y estoy como gallina que no tiene cabeza. A pesar de que tengo una lista de cosas que hacer: recoger, limpiar, trabajar en el sitio web, ver tele, dormir, lavar ropa, no sé que hacer. Por que de ahora en adelante la vida no es la misma. Ya no tengo excusa para hacer cosas durante el día. Ya no tengo quien me acompañe (los que me conocen saben que odio la soledad), pero lo más doloroso es el cambio. NO ME GUSTAN LOS CAMBIOS. Pensar que ya mis niños poco a poco me van necesitando menos. Ahora el tiempo pasa mas rápido, en un abrir y cerrar de ojos ya estarán aplicando a universidades…

¿DRAMÁTICA? Un poco. Pero es la realidad. El tiempo no pasa en vano y aunque aveces miro a mi esposo y me siento como si todavía vivimos en nuestros 20s’ la realidad es que ya estamos más cerca de los 40s’. Mis hijos son lo más que me llena en la vida y estar sin ellos es super doloroso. Aunque la realidad es que después de este verano. Este verano me abrió los ojos de tantas formas. (Si quieres leer lo que sucedió, aquí te comparto el enlace) Lo primero es que no podemos controlar nada de lo que pasa. Aveces queremos controlarlo todo y es imposible. No importa cuan preparados estemos para una cosa u otra siempre hay algo que sale en descontrol. O una “pajita en la leche” como dicen en Puerto Rico. Y no podemos hacer nada al respecto, solo vivir. Debo admitir que a pesar de lo que pasó con mi hijo, que casi pierde la vida, estoy feliz que esté de regreso en el salón de clases. ¿Por que? Por que por lo menos se que por 7 horas va a estar en un escritorio sentado aprendiendo y no tratando de desafiar la suerte. Creo que también para Grace es super bueno que vaya y aprenda a socializar con nuevas personitas. Ella es bien apegada a sus hermanos por que es con quien único comparte. Para los niños a esa edad es super importante socializar. Su pre-escolar es basado en juegos y gracias a Dios tiene la misma maestra que tuvieron sus hermanos, por lo tanto aunque se quedó atacada llorando, se que está en buenas manos. Y se que cuando termine el año va a querer volver.

 

No miento, estos momentos de soledad hacen que mi utero duela. Las ganas de tener otro bebé no se van, pero creo que nuestra familia está completa por ahora. Y creo que me debo tiempo a mi. A ponerme al día, a arreglar mi hogar y a atender a mi esposo. Tengo muchos proyectos que quiero completar y ahora es el momento perfecto para dedicarme a eso.

Bueno con eso las dejo. Se que es un blah blah blah, pero quería escribir lo que siento en estos momentos.

Por favor, cuentenme, ¿que hacen cuando hay cambios significativos en sus vidas?

 

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Almost lost my warrior…

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DISCLAIMER: I hold myself 100% responsible for what happened. My kids were not unsupervised.

This summer, my family and I decided to undertake the longest road trip to date: Fort Worth, Texas. Why? To visit family whom moved there recently. All of the kids were amazing. Minimal bathroom and food breaks, very little complaining, and a beautiful drive through 7 states. All without a rear entertainment system.

After 29 hours, we finally arrived. The kids were so excited to see their cousins. They hadn’t seen each other in a whole year. It was within minutes of walking inside the house that my kids realized there was a pool. If you know me, or follow me on social, you know my biggest fear is of kids and water. I constantly think about the facts: drowning is the second cause of death in children 1-14 in the US. (who.int), boys are more likely to drown than girls because of their behavior, etc. Stuff you hear in the news during the summer time. But as a good swimmer myself, and with a house full of competent swimmers I felt comfortable with the kids to go in the water (I went in too). After the drive it felt amazing. They have been in several pools before and have taken some swimming lessons, and did not hesitate to use some of what they have learned. We arrived Sunday, and by Wednesday my wild middle child was jumping into the “big pool”. My oldest is way more cautious so he decided to make the “little pool” his own. After our trips to the Stockyards, the Fort Worth Zoo, and the Water Gardens, we fought the intense Texas heat in the pool every day.

The day before we left we decided to just have a family BBQ. One of my brothers had flown in and my other brother was arriving that evening. We all had breakfast and an hour later the kids were in the pool, all of them with flotation devices. I was sitting on the edge taking pictures and just being the lifeguard. Glenn had asked me to go into the pool with him. I told him “ok, but I have to put my bathing suit on, just wait for me.” In the pool, the kids were with my brother, his girlfriend, and my sister. After I changed, I went in the kitchen to talk to my mom, which by the way, is about 6 feet from the edge of the pool. That’s when someone yelled “call 911!”

MY HEART STOPPED. When I looked up, I saw my brother carrying Glenn’s lifeless body. He was gone. In my heart I felt it. I just screamed. I grabbed my phone and tried to dial 911. I couldn’t get the numbers right I was shaking so badly. I didn’t understand because I had been trained for this. As a Girl Scout, in the Coast Guard, and as an NYC Emergency Response Team Member, I should have been able to handle this, but I just could not focus. My brother’s girlfriend took over got a 911 operator. No one was letting me get near him. My brother and my dad were assessing the situation when my sister just yelled “start CPR!” I don’t remember how much time he was gone, or how many compressions were done. All of a sudden he was up and started throwing up blood. When he woke up my family let me hold him. He had soiled his bathing suit, and as I finished changing him the paramedics arrived. He was awake, but he was barely breathing on his own.

The drive to the hospital was about 40 minutes but it felt like a lifetime. Thank God he was awake the whole time. We got to Cook’s Children Hospital in Dallas, and he threw up again, probably 3 days’ worth of food. They performed X-Rays and all the blood tests known to man. The doctor came to me and the first thing he said was, “we’re going to move him to the PICU and put him on a breathing machine. If the breathing machine doesn’t help, we’re going to have to intubate him.” They were most worried about a possible pneumonia. At this point I told my sister she had to call my husband. He needed to fly in. He didn’t get home in time to catch any of the Friday night flights out, so he had to wait until the next day to come in. He called me because he wanted to see him. I did not want that. Glenn still hadn’t been awake since the ambulance and was covered in medical equipment. But he insisted, so we Facetime from Glenn’s bed that evening. When he finally saw him we couldn’t help crying together.

I wasn’t sure what his outcome would be. He was put on the C-Pap machine Friday around 2 pm. All he did was sleep. Late Friday night, he woke up for a minute, ask to vomit, and go back to sleep. When they came to check him on Saturday (around 4am), he asked to go pee by himself (they had put diapers on him but he refused to use them). This was HUGE. A sign that there wasn’t neurological damage. Around 6am when he woke up and I asked him if he wanted to play Super Mario Run on my cell phone. He said “YES”. He tried, but with all the monitors connected to him he couldn’t feel comfortable and quit and went back to sleep. Around 9am he asked to have some water. Unfortunately, they couldn’t give him water yet. The staff did not want him to ingest anything until they felt everything was out of his system. However, the nurse and the respiratory therapy technician decided to keep the mask off for a little bit and see how he did, since his oxygen had been stable the whole night.

By Saturday afternoon they decided to move him to a regular room. In no time he was playing his Nintendo Switch and getting mad at the doctors who interrupted him. In one instance the doctor was talking to him and we told him “Glenn, pay attention. Pause the game so you can hear the doctor.” What did he say? “I don’t know how to pause the game!” TOTAL LIE. Already back to being his video gaming self! Now he was able to get food and go to the play room. Saturday evening my husband got to the hospital and stayed with him. By Sunday morning this kid was back to himself. He only complained about his jaw hurting and his loose tooth.

The rest of the family came to visit, and that was so special for him. He played with them in the awesome play room (one of Cook’s Children’s Hospital many wonderful features). He colored with his cousins, raced hot wheels with his brother, and laughed with his sister. His face was swollen and he looked older (almost like an old man), and despite the fun he had with family, he still seemed a little sad. When I asked him if he knew what happened: he said, he jumped and lost his floatie. He was trying to crawl in the bottom of the pool to the stairs. That’s the last he remembers. The doctor who did checks on him saw my face and felt my fear, and he proceeded to tell me “this happens to the best of us. My son fell of the pier at the lake with no floatation device right in front of my face. He also nearly drowned.” It reinforced how common these events are.

Sunday he was discharged. The swelling had gone down, and the youthfulness had returned. He walked out the pediatric ward singing R. Kelly’s “I believe I can fly”. NO JOKE. He had no shoes, a stethoscope that the doctor gifted him, and a shirt that said THE DUDE. As soon as we got to the house, he wanted to show my husband the pool and go back in with him. I wasn’t ready for that, but because I didn’t want him to suffer a form of PTSD I let him put his feet in the water. I sat next to him and did the same thing. This whole time I felt my heart was still. And just like that my son went back to normal, even after nearly losing his life.

For me, there is no going back to normal. I have nightmares every day. I relive the moment every day. I blame myself every day. Why didn’t I stay outside and just lifeguard? Why didn’t I go in the pool with them in the first place? Why didn’t I ask any adult to keep an eye on him because this child is seriously fearless? Why didn’t I respond with my training? Why? Why? Why? I don’t know any of these answers. I probably will never know and I most likely will need therapy to get over this, because I am the safety mom. I am the mom who has avoided every pool birthday party, every pool playdate. I am the mom that still has gates in the house even though Grace is about to be 4. I am the mom that has her 7 year old, 72lbs son in a 5 point harness car seat. This wasn’t supposed to happen on my watch. This wasn’t supposed to happen to us.

But Glenn is something else. This child has a special light. He has fought for his life twice in his 5 years of life, first with cancer, now this. He is fearless and brave, a warrior and a survivor. And maybe there is a reason this happened to him. Maybe God is preparing him for his future. God is preparing us for when he’s jumping of an airplane or swimming with sharks. This is him. I don’t think many other kids would have survived this and responded the way he did.

This is our story but I hope you take with you these lessons:

-NEVER SAY THIS WILL NOT HAPPEN TO ME. The truth is accidents happen. It will not matter if your child can swim or they are supervised. Things go wrong and you have to be prepared.

-Always have someone who is first aid/CPR certified when around kids. THANK God most of my family is trained and were able to save his life.

-When you travel lookup the hospitals in the area. I HAD NEVER EVER THOUGHT ABOUT THIS. When the ambulance got there and asked me what hospital to take him to I had no idea. My sister had only been living there a year so we were clueless.

-Trust your gut. I was just talking about my fear of kids and water a week before. I always had that gut feeling. Maybe from my time in the Coast Guard, maybe because water is so potentially dangerous.

-Be aware of who your kids are. I trusted my kid. And I failed. Because I’m aware of Glenn’s’ personality and I should’ve insisted on him waiting for me.

Glenn is fine now, and everything is seemingly back to normal. He’s still active and fun loving, and shows no adverse effects to what happened. He’s not afraid of the water, or any other craziness for them matter. All this even being well aware of how scary things could have become.

This is why I have been inactive on social media, and just with people in general. I needed time. Time to think, time with the kids, and time to process, to make sure this does not happen again. Please be safe.

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Mis preferidos del NY Baby Show!

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Esta reseña es auspiciada por Momtrends. Todas las opiniones y fotografías son mías. 

El New York Baby Show es una exposición anual donde madres embarazadas y nuevos padres pueden conocer sobre nuevos productos para sus niños. Todos los años tengo la oportunidad de trabajar junto a Momtrends, quienes se encargan de crear un lugar especial para los bloggers e inspirarnos a buscar nuestros productos favoritos de la exposición. Mis favoritos este año son bien diferentes a los años anteriores. Mi hija está mas grande y ya no usa pañales, por lo tanto no cargamos con una bolsa de pañales y estamos utilizando el coche muy poco. Los productos que mas me gustaron, son naturales y definitivamente son eco-amigables.

  1. Jack n’ Jill Natural: Esta compañía Australiana tiene varios productos que me encantaron. Desde la pasta de diente para los niños hasta la crema de Lavanda para toda la familia. Los productos son naturales y huelen riquísimo. También tienen unos muñequitos donde los niños pueden poner los dientes que se le caen. Me gusto mucho que los productos son naturales. La compañía lleva mas de 20 años creando productos, pero recientemente entraron al mercado Norteamericano. Las pastas de dientes son seguras para niños pequeños y no contienen aditivos peligrosos ni químicos demás.
  2. Babyganics Swim Pants: Cuando piensas en productos de bebé nunca se piensa en productos que sean multi-uso. Esa siempre a sido una de mis metas al comprar productos. Me gusta que tengan mas de un uso o propósito. Este es el caso de los pañales para nadar de Babyganics. Estos pañales tienen una área donde indica el tiempo que el niño tiene con el protector solar y cuando hay que aplicarle mas protección. Osea, es una idea GENIAL. Por que muchas veces se nos olvida re-aplicar, o nos dejamos llevar por el sol o el numero en la botella del bloqueador solar. Pero con estos pañales, tenemos un recordatorio para esos momentos. La verdad quedé super sorprendida y espero que mas productos lleguen al mercado con esta tecnología. Especialmente ahora para la temporada de verano.
  3. Anne Geddes Paint: Cuando  vi esto me emocioné. Soy fanática de Anne Geddes desde hace mucho tiempo. Su nuevo proyecto, además de un libro nuevo, es una colección de pinturas para la casa. Las pinturas son seguras para los cuartos de bebé ya que no tienen tóxicos y están hechas a base de agua con ingredientes naturales. Lo mejor es que los colores de la colección ayudan al desarrollo de los bebes. La colección tiene colores en tonos pasteles incluyendo rosa, verde, azul, crema, amarillo entre otros. Me llamó la atención la dedicación de Anne personalmente a escoger los colores que son mas beneficiosos para el desarrollo de los bebés.  NYBABYSHOW

Dos productos mas que me gustaron y llamaron mucho la atención fueron el asiento protector para muñecas de Joovy. ¿Por qué me llamó la atención? Por que este asiento para muñecas fue examinado como un asiento regular de niños. El car seat está “crash tested”. Eso me gustó por que es una tremenda forma de educar a los niños en cuanto a la seguridad en el automóvil. El otro producto que me dejó loca, es una bolsa reusable de una compañía que se llama Greentom. Esta compañía Holandesa construye coches y bolsos de botellas de agua recicladas. ¡Y los coches están BELLOS!

Como pueden ver el NY Baby Show siempre trae algo nuevo al mercado. Me encanta la oportunidad de estar al tanto de los productos nuevos para nuestros niños. El NY Baby Show se lleva a cabo todos los años en la ciudad de Nueva York.

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Planeando el futuro con NY529

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Los beneficios de NY529

Esta entrada es auspiciada por Momtrends. Todas las opiniones y fotografías son de mi propiedad.

Una de las preocupaciones de todos los padres al tener hijos es el costo de la educación universitaria. En muchos países hay educación universitaria gratuita pero en Estados Unidos es uno de los gastos más grandes de una familia. Una carrera universitaria en una universidad de Nueva York puede costar $300,000 si a eso le añadimos que una familia promedio hoy en día tiene 3 hijos, costaría casi un millón de dólares mandar a esos tres hijos a la universidad. Cuando mis hijos nacieron su abuela les regaló una cuanta de NY529. Les juro que hasta el Sábado pasado no sabía realmente lo que era.

Gracias a Momtrends tuvimos la oportunidad de aprender lo que es NY529. Para empezar, les explico que NY529 es una cuenta donde los padres pueden ahorrar dinero para la universidad. Lo más que me llamó la atención es que ese dinero que sea ahorra en la cuenta, aunque sea en NY se puede usar en cualquier estado. Entre otras de las cosas que aprendí sobre el programa es que cualquier persona puede abrir y depositar dinero en la cuenta. Por ejemplo las cuentas de mis chicos las abrió su abuela, pero yo puedo depositar dinero, y también puedo compartir la cuenta con la familia, para que todos le puedan depositar dinero para su cumpleaños o fiestas especiales. No solo eso, el dinero puede ser usado por el niño o sus hermanos ya que las cuentas se pueden pasar a otros miembros de la familia. 

NY529 es un programa de ahorro de dinero para estudios no solo universitarios pero también estudios vocacionales y estudios post graduados. No solo eso el dinero también se puede utilizar para emergencias familiares (pagando ciertas penalidades). Durante la actividad también aprendimos a como el dinero se puede utilizar entre hermanos. Por ejemplo si uno tiene una cuenta pero el otro no, el dinero es transferible. Y los más importante son las deducciones que recibes de impuestos por tener el dinero en la cuenta, una madre soltera puede recibir hasta $5,000 devuelta en sus impuestos con una cuenta de NY529.

¿Quieres aprender mas sobre la NY529? Pues puedes visitar la página de NY529, aquí. También tienes una línea para comunicarte 877-NYSAVES (697-2837).

Gracias al Institute of Culinary Education por la excelente comida y entretener a los chicos mientras aprendíamos sobre el programa. Gracias a Momtrends por otro súper evento.

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Regresa el NY Baby Show y hay entradas gratis!

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El NY Baby Show regresa este Mayo 20 y 21. Este siempre a sido el evento más grande para madres embarazadas y para padres de niños pequeños. Durante los dos días las familias, si familias, es un evento para todos, tienen la oportunidad de conocer nuevas marcas de equipo para niños. Pero no solo eso, también pueden experimentar con diferentes coches en la pista de diferentes terrenos que construyen para el evento, y también aprender sobre diferentes clases para niños.

También durante el show hay diferentes conferenciantes hablando sobre diferentes temas como la lactancia, tipos de crianza y planificación futura. Suerte para ti que me estás leyendo, tengo entradas gratis! Pero tienen que actuar rápido por que solo hay 10… Pero no se preocupen por que también tengo un código para un 50% de la entrada.

Si quieren saber más, aquí está mi entrada de el año pasado. Top 3 Discoveries at NY Baby Show! Y si quieren saber más también tengo la reseña del 2014 y 2015… Me encantan los eventos de niños y más cuando es divertido para toda la familia, creo que eso es lo mas que me gusta del NY Baby Show.

Suerte a todas y espero verlas allá.

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Checking in

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So, I know I’ve been active on Facebook Live, focusing on my Spanish show Time for Cafecito (Monday, Wednesdays and Fridays at 9am on Facebook), but I wanted to check in with you, who reads me in English. I am slowly trying to separate the pages into Spanish and English but for now is a blend just my family.

Not a lot has gone down. I miss writing, I really do, but live is so much fun. The interaction with the audience is so awesome. Sometimes the broadcasts are crazy and they suck- but for the most part, we have fun. If there is anything that makes me proud about the show is that I have been able to hold on to my authentic self (sorry if this sounds to hipster for you). Is hard when you work in social media to stay true to yourself. Slowly videos start becoming productions, posts turn into short novels and pictures a work of art, comparable to those of professional photographers. It’s hard ya’ll. And is competitive AF. Which is honestly, the main reason I decided to just focus on broadcasting and doing it in my language. It’s been a real evolution to find my happy place in social media. And although it’s been a very very very slow growth I love turtles and don’t mind slow. Slow and steady wins the race, right?

Anyways just wanted to check in. Say what’s up? I’m still here. I still read messages on all the platforms, but really focusing about 90% of my energy to Facebook. To be completely honest, I have absolutely NO ENERGY to focus on 7 platforms at the same time. I truly admire those who do. I am working on a lot of small projects that take insane amount of work, including my health journey. These are also the last couple of months I will have alone with G3 so I’m trying to soak it all in. Is really about priorities. So yes, Instagram, Twitter and Snapchat will have to wait (hopefully they’ll still be around when I get back to them).

It’s almost Spring people! I can smell the spring even through the snow and ice. And I can’t wait for what the rest of the year has in store. This year has been off to a great start so of course excitement awaits.

Please fell free to reach out if you want me to write about something or translate. Also I am still working with expecting and new parents as a concierge. So if you know anyone expecting, send then this way! There’s a lot of baby shows coming up that they might be interested in.

Anyways, hope you are all having a great year and are holding up in these crazy times.

xoxo,

Gemarla

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Concurso Happy Planner y otros goodies!

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Ya empezó el 2017 y que rápido se está moviendo el año. Una de mis metas es mantenerme más organizada y pues que mejor que las agendas para mantenerse al día. Pero para mi, la agenda es más que un libro para escribir mis tareas del día. Para mí, mi agenda es un escape creativo donde diseño mis días con temas diferentes y de acuerdo a días festivos.

Desde hace varios años estoy decorando mi agenda Erin Condren, pero este año estoy usando la agenda Happy Planner. Esta agenda me encanta por que tienes la opción de ponerle y quiarle las páginas. Como era de esperarse estos planners/agendas se han convertido en la moda con cientos de grupos en Facebook donde se comparten ideas y stickers y los “layouts”.

En mi serie de Facebook de Time for Cafecito, comenzé a hacer los planea conmigo en vivo. Es como una terapia. Pues lo prometido es deuda, y aunque ya estamos en Marzo, todavía puedes comenzar a planear con nosotros.

 

Con tal motivo me inspiré a crear este concurso. Habrán dos ganadores. Uno de ellos se llevara un Happy Planner del 2017 en un kit que incluye estampas y otras cositas. Para participar tienen que ver el video del miércoles y contestar varias preguntas. Para una entrada gratis al concurso y para que no te pierdas los concursos que vienen por ahí, subcribete a nuestra página!

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Hello 2017!

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Well 2016 is done and I am pretty sad. Unlike the hundred of people who wanted 2016 to be done because the amount of bad things that happened, I actually didn’t want 2016 to end because I’m not ready for the bad things that could happen in 2017. Anyways… I usually do our year in review and I think 2016 was pretty freaking awesome. I debated whether to write this in English or Spanish, but figured more people will read in English.

Anyways here’s a short recap of our year.

January was amazing because we celebrate Glenn’s and my moms birthday and we finally booked our first trip to the west coast. I have never been to there so planning it was pretty fun.

February was a bore.

March: OMG March was AMAZING. Like AMAZIIIIIIING. We traveled to LA. I had the chance to go to We All Grow and see my brother (who is an awesome tour guide BTW). During our time in California, we did soooo many things. We visited Long Beach, Los Angeles, I got to see the Hollywood sign, Santa Monica Pier, we drove to San Diego. During our time in San Diego, we visited Old Town, Julien and my favorite the Imperial San Dunes. Seeing a dessert was beyond an incredible experience and being there during a sand storm was beyond cool (although dangerous).  Of course, we couldn’t go to California and not visit Disneyland Resort. I have so many mixed feelings about our visit. I have yet to expressed them in written form.

April was just great because is always great to celebrate another year married to an incredible man. 2016 marked our 15th year together and our 8th year married. I can’t believe I love this man so much.

May: May brought news. Some sad news and some good news. Sad news: my sister was moving away mid-summer, not close by but to Texas. This is my best friend, and the mom to the only 2 nieces and 2 nephews I have. But on the other hand, my brother, was trying to come back to the East Coast.

June was CRAZY! My little sister, my baby was graduated high school and my birthday and my first-born graduated kindergarten. Like, when did this happen? Duh, June. It happened in June. Oh and yes for the first time I participated in the Puerto Rican Day Parade. Not participate as in go, but actually be part of a float, thanks to George Torres, the Urban Jibaro from Sofrito for your Soul and Capicú.

July: I said by to my sister and her kids. And in the process, died a little. I am extremely attached to my family, not having them close has been devastating for me. Oh and for the first time I took the kids to the beach in NYC. And it was amazing to see their love for the ocean. It filled my heart so much that they loved the water and the sand.

August: Holy SMOKES, my parents have been married for 35 freaking years! Like that is amazing. And not only that, my first-born turned 6… and I am starting to change. It was in August, that my awareness became heightened. Having a black husband and the political chaos of the elections is starting to mess with my mind. We also enjoyed our annual trip to the lake. Going to the lake is always so much fun and it gives us a little time to breathe. It’s always so relaxing to be by the water and in the clean air of the mountains.

September: WHAAAAAT? I officially have 2 kids in school- FULL TIME. First grade and my second born started pre-K. And I was so worried for him, but no, the dude LOVES school. Even has groupies. September also took me back to my beloved Island. And uff, the feelings were beyond what I’ve felt in a loooooong time. The last time I was there was 2013. I was pregnant with my baby girl. I was there for a funeral. So, this trip was MAJOR. I was going by myself, for the first time. I went to check out PR BloggerCon, and I was pleasantly surprised.

October: DISNEYYYYYYYY, by myself. Ok, well not Disney but LATISM, which was at Walt Disney World Resort. To say the conference was amazing is an understatement. The conference was full of great information on how to use social media for SOCIAL purpose. Focusing on the elections and the importance of the Latino vote. It was also a great moment to connect with new influencers and to spend some quality amazing time with some lovely people. FYI, Disney was AMAZING! Got to meet Elena of Avalor and cried! Seriously cried. I couldn’t even hold my composure. It was such an epic moment. I was moved to my core. I felt the connection. It was, dare I say, magical!

November: Can we not talk about November.

December: this December was the definition of an emotional roller coaster. I had no idea I would be so affected by the election results and would be so political about the state of our country says the political science major! In happier news Grace turned freaking 3 years old. Like, how did this happen. I have no idea. I still see a baby. I just birthed her!

As everyone was ready to quit 2016, I wasn’t ready. I’m still not settled on this 2017. It took forever to write this post, even though I started it over 2 months ago. I figured, better late than never. These posts serve to remind me of our year. And see it with different eyes and compare it. Each year, does keep getting better. So even as I struggle to see the positive to come in the political and social area, I can see how our family is living each  moment to the max. At the end of the day that is my main purpose. We could be gone tomorrow so I want to enjoy today.

There is so much left to do. So many goals not accomplished last year. But it is with the most confidence I can say, we did everything we possibly could. Every day was lived and enjoyed. Everyday included smiles and hugs and love. And is my wish to continue to live this way into 2017.

 

Happy New Year from our family to yours!

 

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Thank you to AccuWeather for sponsoring this post. All opinions are my own. 

The holiday season is upon us and so is the winter months. With it comes the higher increase in-house fires. Things like stoves and space heaters are the main cause of fires during the winter. AccuWeather teamed up with the FDNY to educate families in safety specially during this time of the year. They created the AccuWeather  Be Ready program which is meant to educate and help people be ready all year-long. If you read the blog you know safety is pretty important to us and being ready so I was super excited to attend this press conference were AccuWeather talked about the partnership.

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We also had the chance to see and experience how they educated first graders in their simulation room at the FDNY Fire Zone in NYC. One of the things that they talked about and I thought was great was using the app to stay informed. I didn’t even know they had an app, which is really convenient for families who are always in the go. I downloaded the app right away, since I’m always on the phone so is perfect for me.

During this press conference the FDNY also talked to us about the causes of fires and how to prevent them. One of the biggest causes of fires during this time are space heaters. People turn them on and put them to close to clothes or even sofas. To prevent the fires while using a space heater, make sure that there is absolutely nothing around it. Also is important to turn it off as soon as you are done using it. Never, ever go to sleep with the space heater on. Another important thing to do is make sure that the smoke detectors are working properly. Make sure the batteries are good and that is not expired.

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If you are in an emergency, always have a plan. Teach kids their address in case they are the ones that have to call 9-1-1. Also make sure they know the families meeting place if you need to evacuate the house. I took time to ask the fire chief, James E. Leonard about some tips or things we should pay closer attention to. The one thing he mentioned was people who sit in their cars or leave their cars on inside the garage. This is dangerous because dangerous emissions are getting trapped underneath the car and could cause an explosion. I also asked him what’s the best age to start training your children and educating them about fire safety, his response: is never to early. Start teaching them as soon as they can understand you.

I think is great that there are so many resources educating and advocating safety and preparedness. This is something I’m so passionate about, because it’s important and it could save your families lives. I’m glad AccuWeather started this program for people to be ready, because weather is super important when it comes to safety, so they go hand in hand. If you want more information on the program please visit AccuWeather but you can also check out more information on their network as well as the app.

Thanks to The Moms for inviting me. 

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¡Más Puertorriqueña que el COQUÍ!

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Llegó Noviembre y para los Puertorriqueños es el mes de los meses! Celebramos el mes de la herencia Puertorriqueña y el descubrimiento de Puerto Rico. Como ya ustedes saben yo nací y me crié en Puerto Rico pero desde los 18 años me mudé a los ‘Nuyores’, dejando atrás a mi familia y a mi Isla. En todos mis años en Puerto Rico siempre tuve un amor diferente a la Isla. Aunque era pro-estadidad (querer que Puerto Rico sea parte de los EEUU como estado), siempre el amor a mi Isla estaba ahí. Tanto y tanto que mi sueño era ser la primera gobernadora mujer de la Isla. En el 2000, Sila María Calderón me “robó” el título, pero no los sueños de algún día convertirme en servidora pública de mi país.

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Mientras pasaba el tiempo me dediqué a estudiar la historia de Puerto Rico, hasta que gané varios premios. Me llevé la medalla de Historia de mi clase graduanda y hasta el día de hoy, mi profesor de historia sigue siendo mi maestro favorito (de toda mi carrera escolar- incluyendo la universidad- Gracias Adolfo!). Al graduarme de escuela superior me encontré con la decisión mas difícil en mi vida de joven, ¿donde voy a continuar mis estudios? Puerto Rico tiene muy buenas instituciones educativas, pero en ese momento la isla estaba pasando por momentos de transición. En las universidades habían muchas protestas y la verdad yo quería estudiar. Como chiste del destino, me fuí a entrevistar con los reclutas del Army, Navy, Air Force y Coast Guard. Todos me dijeron lo mismo, si te enlistas vas para un barco o una base y no vas a poder estudiar. Eso me desilusionó, ya que no había aplicado a ninguna universidad a pesar de haber sacado una puntuación excelente en el College Board (exámen de admisión universitaria en la Isla).

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Para hacer el cuento largo- corto, a comienzos de Abril del 2000, Manhattan College estaba reclutando estudiantes. Como son las cosas del destino, terminó siendo la única universidad que apliqué y la que me aceptó la misma semana que tenía mi cita para enlistarme en el Coast Guard. Cuando decidí irme me dolió en el alma. Aunque era un sueño hecho realidad, vivir en Nueva York, me dolía dejar a mi familia y mi isla. Solo mi familia sabe mi amor por la playa, por la isla, por su historia, por su música, por su comida, por sus montañas. Bueno fue un proceso difīcil. Tenía miedo. Cuando llegue a NYC, desconocía muchas cosas. Tuve un choque de cultura increíble. Pero lo logré. Terminé mi bachillerato en 4 años y al graduarme nuevamente regresó la incertidumbre. Regresé a Puerto Rico con otra perspectiva. Había conocido otras culturas, vivido en otro ambiente y ahí fue que caí en cuenta que Puerto Rico para mi era MAS que un pedazo de tierra. Decidí enlistarme en el Coast Guard después de la universidad para regresar a NY.

Regresé a NYC y me dí cuenta que no importa lo que hiciera PR nunca iba a dejar de ser importante para mi. No soy la patriota típica que cree en la independencia, no cree en irse de la isla, celebra el Grito de Lares y es fanática de Martí. Soy patriota por que trato de representar a mi isla de la mejor manera posible, trato de educar a los que no conocen, apoyo lo que viene de la isla y su talento. Estando en la diáspora, mucha gente piensa que no se le quiere a la tierra. ¡Y eso no es así! Yo amo a Puerto Rico, pero para amar a Puerto Rico no tengo que escuchar salsa, no tengo que tener banderas por toda mi casa, no tengo que comer arroz con gandules todos los días. Solo tengo que amar quien soy. Amar de donde vengo y representarla lo mejor posible.

Mi banda favorita: Cultura Profética

Mi comida favorita: Pastelón, arroz con gandules, pérnil

Mi lugar favorito: Caracoles

Mi libro favorito: La casa de la Laguna (Rosario Ferré)

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Siempre jugo con la idea de regresar. De estar ahí día a día. Pero por ahora trabajo desde acá para crear conciencia, educar y celebrar Puerto Rico.

Ahora cuénteme, ¿cuales son sus favoritos?